Is it harder for the uglies to keep their weight down?

[CaptainForehead]

I've put on an inch but have been struggling with motivation. Fat or not so fat - I'll still be undesirable.

@Admin mentioned this in another thread - do the uglies struggle with motivation in life?

Is dieting harder for the aesthetically challenged?

[Admin]

As I've said many times, I bought a gym membership right before I was given my male pattern baldness diagnosis at the age of 19.

The first time I went back after my dermatologist told me I would be bald in about 5 years, I started noticing my scalp under the bright lights of the gym.

It instanly killed my motivation and I went back maybe a couple of times before giving up altogether.

These days it's much easier to stay motivated thanks to the halo my hair provides me, if I put on a bit of fat, my jaw quicly disappears and the potato face emerges.

In those moments, it's way easier to get back on track with hair on my head, I'll think "dude, what are you doing? You could look great by being just a bit more careful!"

So yeah, it's much easier to work hard to improve your looks when you already look good in general. If you suffer from extensive hair loss for example, you'll much more easily think: "meh, what's the point? Painting a pig..."

[rclark]

Sometimes I don't like going to the gym because I'm old looking. There are guys my age there, but most of the
guys are not.

[CaptainForehead]

This motivation aspect is not addressed in mainstream discussion.
"Lose weight, eat healthy, go to the gym!" with pictures of good looking people.

Meanwhile the uglies are why bother.


Also, in my gym in the US, somehow yoga pants have become a uniform for young girls. Even for girls working as staff. Tempting men with asses and legs. Islam has a point.

[Rudiger]

It's pretty simple really, you feel silly exerting all this effort for change and still it's aesthetically making no difference really (in nearly ever persons case, except the extremely dedicated).

Motivation from working out has to come from an appreciation of the feeling it gives you both as an achievement, and also the physical feeling afterwards of feeling amazing after a great workout.

I've never thought aesthetics was a strong enough reason to keep someone genuinely motivated enough to make significant changes to themselves. Sure it can spark the desire, but you need more than that, because the aesthetic change is such a slow process that it won't be enough to keep you going.

You need to appreciate it on a more personal level, if it gives you some sense of discipline. Maybe you live a sedentary life where you aren't challenged physically or even mentally in a lot of ways (dull job or no pursuit of challenging activities), and this act of doing something repetitive which feels seemingly pointless most of the time, it works as some form of meditation for you.

But aesthetics? Well going back to the thread, if you're already great looking and have a good body shape/frame, of course you're going to be more motivated. The physique you can gain is the cherry on top. If people's main reason for going to the gym is to look better, then good looking people have already ticked that box, they have no further motivation battles to overcome (or at least nowhere near as extreme).

[blackg]

Sometimes I don't like going to the gym because I'm old looking. There are guys my age there, but most of the
guys are not.

How is your body holding up otherwise?

[rclark]

How is your body holding up otherwise?

I need to lose weight, and start hitting the gym.

[blackg]

I need to lose weight, and start hitting the gym.

Running is good. I jog after a few beers.

[Afro_Vacancy]

I've put on an inch but have been struggling with motivation. Fat or not so fat - I'll still be undesirable.

Admin mentioned this in another thread - do the uglies struggle with motivation in life?

Is dieting harder for the aesthetically challenged?

Yes, I think so, for a variety of reasons.

First of all, and most simply, aesthetically challenged is likely correlated with a hormonal profile that makes it more difficult to maintain a good body composition. This won't always be true, but in general a modestly high ratio of testosterone to estrogen, and a good bone structure, is likely advantageous for body composition.

Second, motivation isn't a switch that we can just flip, we're not robots. I suspect that delayed gratification requires ... perceiving the future. You need some meaningful hope that things can get better, in order to overcome the burden of both eating better and exercising more, and doing so continuously, for a period of months at a time.

Lastly, food is a coping mechanism. People have different coping mechanisms: sugar, alcohol, gambling, violence, drugs, video games, et cetera. They are all harmful when taken to excess, but they can also all be argued to be inevitable if one is in a genuinely difficult life situation. As before, we are not robots, and we will all indulge in some way if life is hard. If you face more cruelty from the world, and you deal with less security, less friendship, less warmth, less sex, etc then you are likely to pursue indulgences. This can lead to a vicious spiral.

[CaptainForehead]

I wish I wasn't such a lazy fat fuck.

I wish I had her energy.

[Uncle Grandfather]

I wish I had her energy.

You could, with crack.

[Rudiger]

I wish I wasn't such a lazy fat fuck.

I wish I had her energy.

"When your hair is liek back up in a bun it's always liek even so yano just have to liek even it out" STFU WHORE

[blackg]

Ballerinacel

[JasonStatham]

"When your hair is liek back up in a bun it's always liek even so yano just have to liek even it out" STFU WHORE

Imagine the day of a balding male ballet dancer. Let's name him Wolf:

• Wolf's daily ballet routine
  
  "6:30 I'm walking into the bathroom to brush my teeth. I feel good today."
  
  "6:31 Sadly I could see the reflection of my hair or the lack of it, in the Colgate toothpaste. I feel deeply depressed and suicidal"
  
  "8:30 Wolf's boss is trying to call him. No one answers"
  
  "13:30 Wolf's boss feels very concerned and calls the police"
  
  "14:00 police found Wolf dead on the floor with 2 empty Minoxidil bottle and a suicide note saying: "See you in follicle heaven"

[blackg]

Imagine the day of a balding male ballet dancer. Let's name him Wolf:

• Wolf's daily ballet routine
  
  "6:30 I'm walking into the bathroom to brush my teeth. I feel good today."
  
  "6:31 Sadly I could see the reflection of my hair or the lack of it, in the Colgate toothpaste. I feel deeply depressed and suicidal"
  
  "8:30 Wolf's boss is trying to call him. No one answers"
  
  "13:30 Wolf's boss feels very concerned and calls the police"
  
  "14:00 police found Wolf dead on the floor with 2 empty Minoxidil bottle and a suicide note saying: "See you in follicle heaven"

Why do you guys keep dragging Wolf Pack through the mud? It's insulting.