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Post by Afro_Vacancy » 1 year ago

I have re-created my dating profiles after a long hiatus and I've found it very hard to accomplish anything. After a few weeks, I've acquired a lot of matches, and the apps suggest that there are several women who like me that I have not yet evaluated. This is the part where Shookwun would say "Stop talking about your matches you pussy, it's embarrassing, tell me about how many you've fucked."

It is indeed embarrassing, but I don't have the will to put in a lot of effort. I have been mistreated by women so many times. Just installing the apps made my blood boil. Just initiating the first few conversations makes my blood boil. I get angry, frustrated, and I start ruminating. There is a bit of effort that is needed for this to work, but I'm no longer able to invest it. I can't bring myself to write and keep writing "would you like to meet up for a drink this weekend?"

I've also my motivation to dress and to eat better.
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Just don't bother, online dating doesn't work with sub8 men. It doesn't mean you're ugly or there's something wrong with you, but even men who're 6.5/10 suffer horribly in online dating.

In real life it's different as you'd be in direct contact with the woman and you'd not be swarmed by other Chads who would take the woman's attention from you like in Tinder and talking with someone is real life is very different than talking to them online as in real life you talk with emotions and body language and eye contact.

Think of it like that, imagine you enter a restaurant where you could get anything for free and without any effort from the menu, wouldn't you choose the highest quality and best food available ? That's exactly like Tinder, and you can't blame women for choosing the best.

People who say "it's over if you don't get 100 matches on tinder bro", "tinder is real life bro", "tinder works for sub8 men you're just ugly bro", are legit retarded.
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I should set my location to Cairo and see how many matches I get.
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I should set my location to Cairo and see how many matches I get.
lol Tinder is not popular here at all and most people who use it are Russians or very high status stacies. I'd say change the location to Thailand and you might find something good.
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Just don't bother, online dating doesn't work with sub8 men. It doesn't mean you're ugly or there's something wrong with you, but even men who're 6.5/10 suffer horribly in online dating.

In real life it's different as you'd be in direct contact with the woman and you'd not be swarmed by other Chads who would take the woman's attention from you like in Tinder and talking with someone is real life is very different than talking to them online as in real life you talk with emotions and body language and eye contact.

Think of it like that, imagine you enter a restaurant where you could get anything for free and without any effort from the menu, wouldn't you choose the highest quality and best food available ? That's exactly like Tinder, and you can't blame women for choosing the best.

People who say "it's over if you don't get 100 matches on tinder bro", "tinder is real life bro", "tinder works for sub8 men you're just ugly bro", are legit retarded.
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But seriously, the analogy of Chads chasing off potential women is quite perfect. In an average club, how many really handsome men are pushing after 5's and 6's? (not to assume your target market David)

Not only very rare, but those 8/10 top tier men are barely visible. The small percentage who are, are being hassled by 7+'s, and probably wouldn't want to be seen with much less.

However, on the secrecy of their dating app? They are easily accessible, probably agree to a lot of matches, maybe to actually fuck, maybe just to fuck around with girls they don't even want. Average girls probably get attention from pushing that high, and sometimes results in meet ups, realistically why would they want to go for less?

If you couldn't get model tier women in real life, but on your app you get regular conversations, and even some occasional lays, witnessing the likes of which you've only ever seen on POV porn videos, would you hope for that forever or just settle on less? You'd keep holding out, everyone wants that angelic beauty around them.

Those girls will keep holding out, but that doesn't mean those are the only girls out there. Also from my own experience of knowing females as friends or romantically, I genuinely believe a large amount just use it to browse around for fun, literally just to see what pathetic saps in their local area are cruising for pussy. I've seen the rapid fire Left Swipe so many times, which I'm sure is self-explanatory, literally a split second leftswipeleftswipeleftswipe for absolutely no reason, just to see what's happening on Tinder. At best the 9.5 Chad will get a 5 second glance of "ooh, not bad", and then 50+ more rapid fire insta-swipes until the next rare Chad is briefly looked upon, but never actually considered.

Well, of course some men are actually considered, but only by a small amount of females, and this small amount is a massive amount of response to each individual Chad. Those women are as thirsty as any male thot chaser, and I believe they are the nymphos that make up a small amount of the population, but on the internet, those who are seeking, will dominate. To go back to the average left-swiper, even seeing someone who gets them wet upon the sight of their app, they'll still think a bunch of reasons they wouldn't actually meet that guy.

Those reasons are one of the few where men and women actually have a similar mindset generally- rejection, threat of danger (more physical than in comparison with a man's concern- mental torture) and more than anything, the one I personally relate to most which combines all of those fears- can I really be arsed? How far away are they? Are they weird anyway? Will they be disappointed with me? Although these pictures of them are legit impeccable, will I be disappointed with them?

Anyway, this is my take on online/app dating, not exactly fact based but I have looked all of this up before in my time on HairLossTalk thinking about it (and sometimes getting thirsty myself and tempted) and felt it correlated with how I was seeing things anyway. In response to this post people could pull up that old graph of how most females find even the top 10% of males unattractive, and men were a lot more balanced out, but that was of course a survey pulled from an online dating service.

If you were to do the same sample survey (which would be practically impossible) with women meeting men, in real life, and talking to them briefly, what would the data show on that? Point being- they scroll through countless guys that are fairly attractive, average, ugly, of course their eyes will only pop at the best. Especially if they actually get some response and validity from that top tier.

The vast majority of females online are practically in-accessible, they are usually swiping you down to shit out of boredom (and oblivious to an algorithm) or they are nymphos going through this constant cycle of 7+ men laying them now and then. This for me is 99% of online dating.

As a side-thought, to put on tin-foil hat Rudiger mode (this doesn't come out that often) I wonder in the online world with a gigantic portion of fake Twitter and Facebook profiles- what keeps a dating app going strong? Is it the naturally more thirsty and desperate males swiping right all day, or females (who can get laid by literally walking in to a club and looking at any random guy, and pointing at their vagina) being the rejected ones?

I'm sure the success of which genders activity was noted in the infancy of online dating. Those who will only pursue more will be preyed upon. Those who are discouraged easily will be encouraged. I think that could explain why this happens in such a baffling manner.

The obvious problem remains for you though, we're putting you off online dating, so where's this majestical land of real life pussy?

I know the answer I just feel like my post is too long already (I don't have a clue)
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being the rejected ones?
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I have been mistreated by women so many times.
When you say mistreated, what do you mean exactly?

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People who say "it's over if you don't get 100 matches on tinder bro", "tinder is real life bro", "tinder works for sub8 men you're just ugly bro", are legit retarded.
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Tinder and other dating apps are most definitely is real life. The secound most popular way for peple to get into relationships today is through dating apps. 1/3rd of all marriages start off online. And remember that's relationships and marriage just imagine the dick mileage the women are getting through dating apps. I can only postulate that those figures would be even larger among the younger generation.
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Source: https://www.technologyreview.com/s/6090 ... f-society/ The study also found that online dating has increased the amount of interracial marriages considerably.

Not only does online dating increase hypergamy making it simple for women to pick and choose between Chads. Not only does it increase the degeneracy among women making it easy being a slut without repercussions. Not only does it create more incels when women have easy access to being a human fleshlight for genetically superior men. Not only does it fuel womens already massive ego getting validation by being matched with high SMV men. Not only does it increase the amount of women unwilling to settle for their looksmatch before they're infertile. It also increases interracial marriages.

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Tinder and other dating apps are most definitely is real life. The secound most popular way for peple to get into relationships today is through dating apps. 1/3rd of all marriages start off online. And remember that's relationships and marriage just imagine the dick mileage the women are getting through dating apps. I can only postulate that those figures would be even larger among the younger generation.
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Source: https://www.technologyreview.com/s/6090 ... f-society/ The study also found that online dating has increased the amount of interracial marriages considerably.

Not only does online dating increase hypergamy making it simple for women to pick and choose between Chads. Not only does it increase the degeneracy among women making it easy being a slut without repercussions. Not only does it create more incels when women have easy access to being a human fleshlight for genetically superior men. Not only does it fuel womens already massive ego getting validation by being matched with high SMV men. Not only does it increase the amount of women unwilling to settle for their looksmatch before they're infertile. It also increases interracial marriages.
The "it's over for sub8" bullshit is mostly a cope said by ugly fuckers who LOVE to say that "it's over for 80% of men" to help themselves cope with being the bottom of the barrel and they want to bring everyone down with them, or it's just said as an excuse to justify being a complete failure with women.

It's not over for 80% of men, average men get laid all the time especially average white men. Keep coping with "muh Chad gets all the women" when Normies and Chadlites are having the times of their lives with women and enjoying their youth.

Saying it's over if you're less than 8/10 is just a pure COPE for 2/10 and 3/10 subhumans who aren't wanted by ANYONE.
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The "it's over for sub8" bullshit is mostly a cope said by ugly fuckers who LOVE to say that "it's over for 80% of men" to help themselves cope with being the bottom of the barrel and they want to bring everyone down with them, or it's just said as an excuse to justify being a complete failure with women.

It's not over for 80% of men, average men get laid all the time especially average white men. Keep coping with "muh Chad gets all the women" when Normies and Chadlites are having the times of their lives with women and enjoying their youth.

Saying it's over if you're less than 8/10 is just a pure COPE for 2/10 and 3/10 subhumans who aren't wanted by ANYONE.
You said saying "tinder is real life bro" is retarded. It isn't. As I mentioned in my other post it's one of the most common ways for people to get into relationships, marriage, and probably the most common way women and genetically superior men get sex. Which you failed to address.

On these dating apps the 80/20 rule is in full effect. And it has been proven time and time again.
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Average men don't get laid all the time. I don't know where the hell you got that from, and you're not providing any evidence. Men who are rated average in looks by women, they get laid all the time. And those men are in reality top 20%.
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You said saying "tinder is real life bro" is retarded. It isn't. As I mentioned in my other post it's one of the most common ways for people to get into relationships, marriage, and probably the most common way women and genetically superior men get sex. Which you failed to address.

On these dating apps the 80/20 rule is in full effect. And it has been proven time and time again.
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Average men don't get laid all the time. I don't know where the hell you got that from, and you're not providing any evidence. Men who are rated average in looks by women, they get laid all the time. And those men are in reality top 20%.
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I saw experiments with males from 4/10-7.5/10 on Tinder and they did badly, only legit Chad had matches and women responding to them.

On the other hand, i saw thousands of Normies and Chadlites getting LTR and FWB and are enjoying their youth to the fullest. Examples here are [mention]Admin[/mention] [mention]Rudiger[/mention] [mention]JasonStatham[/mention] [mention]JLBB[/mention], none of those Guys are Chads and yet they've been completely successful with women.

Only below average males like to cope with the 80/20 rule because it makes them feel a bit better about themselves.

"If i can't be happy, everyone should be miserable".
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You said saying "tinder is real life bro" is retarded. It isn't. As I mentioned in my other post it's one of the most common ways for people to get into relationships, marriage, and probably the most common way women and genetically superior men get sex. Which you failed to address.

On these dating apps the 80/20 rule is in full effect. And it has been proven time and time again.
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Average men don't get laid all the time. I don't know where the hell you got that from, and you're not providing any evidence. Men who are rated average in looks by women, they get laid all the time. And those men are in reality top 20%.
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The black pill that seems harder to swallow for a lot of men is that it's no different in real life. The first contact, the foot in the door is and has always been about looks, at least since the sexual revolution of the 1960's.

Why would the woman who swipes you left on Tinder go for you in a real life situation, whether it's for a fling or the long haul. That's the question nobody wants to ask and put against the narrative you've outlined above.

It's not as bad as the bitter and resentful incels think, I'm afraid it's way worse. The good news is, if you manage to make it offline, you'll make it online as well. That was my personal experience anyway.

Your value remains the same across venues, unless you can gain a high status in a particular environment, but again, as status is as real as your looks, putting it in your online dating profile would have the same effect. That's my take on it.
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I saw experiments with males from 4/10-7.5/10 on Tinder and they did badly, only legit Chad had matches and women responding to them.

On the other hand, i saw thousands of Normies and Chadlites getting LTR and FWB and are enjoying their youth to the fullest. Examples here are Admin Rudiger JasonStatham JLBB, none of those Guys are Chads and yet they've been completely successful with women.

Only below average males like to cope with the 80/20 rule because it makes them feel a bit better about themselves.

"If i can't be happy, everyone should be miserable".
You haven't seen any of us. I'm average height and good looking apart from diffuse and big forehead, I think Fred is around the same level but also very tall, and JL I've heard is Chad esque. I'd say 3 out of the 4 are comfortably in the top 20%, with me for example it's not like I get daily compliments from strangers about being high t and having a big dick, but generally being referred to as "the good looking one" etc is not uncommon, and while "Chad" as I understand it is next level perfection, outside of the internet my looks mog probably all others in a lot of rooms.

I'd love to believe my charismatic personality is the sole reason I never go too long without pussy, reality is that looks just opens doors for you. That's not to say it doesn't require other things which I will take credit for, but of course I have friends, and I see many who get fucking nowhere with women.
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The black pill that seems harder to swallow for a lot of men is that it's no different in real life. The first contact, the foot in the door is and has always been about looks, at least since the sexual revolution of the 1960's.

Why would the woman who swipes you left on Tinder go for you in a real life situation, whether it's for a fling or the long haul. That's the question nobody wants to ask and put against the narrative you've outlined above.

It's not as bad as the bitter and resentful incels think, I'm afraid it's way worse. The good news is, if you manage to make it offline, you'll make it online as well. That was my personal experience anyway.

Your value remains the same across venues, unless you can gain a high status in a particular environment, but again, as status is as real as your looks, putting it in your online dating profile would have the same effect. That's my take on it.
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None of those guys are Chads, but they still have girlfriends. Why ? Because they're not ugly (I would rate them from 4 to weak 6), fullheads and they're neurotypical.

Most Normies are the same, they're not ugly and rely on their social skills to get laid and relationships. Of course Chad has it easier, of course the better looking you're the better looking your partner will be and the better the quality of your relationships will, etc. Those are undeniable facts. But saying "it's over for sub 8/10 LDAR boyo tour is over", is just a cope by ugly men (sub4), and an excuse by above average looking men like the ones like Xander and Lookism members because they have autism, no friends and refuse to put any effort.

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You haven't seen any of us. I'm average height and good looking apart from diffuse and big forehead, I think Fred is around the same level but also very tall, and JL I've heard is Chad esque. I'd say 3 out of the 4 are comfortably in the top 20%, with me for example it's not like I get daily compliments from strangers about being high t and having a big dick, but generally being referred to as "the good looking one" etc is not uncommon, and while "Chad" as I understand it is next level perfection, outside of the internet my looks mog probably all others in a lot of rooms.

I'd love to believe my charismatic personality is the sole reason I never go too long without pussy, reality is that looks just opens doors for you. That's not to say it doesn't require other things which I will take credit for, but of course I have friends, and I see many who get fucking nowhere with women.
I don't need to see any of you, Chad = a male model.

When i say Chad, i mean people like Sean O'pry, Francisco Lachowski, David Gandy, Alain Delon, Tyson Ballou, Brad Pitt, etc.

And also Normies rate themselves way higher than they actually are. Every Normie thinks he's one of the top and that he is at least a 7/10. The real indicator of how good looking you're is how many women you've "slayed", how many women are interested in you, how many women call you handsome each week, how many women give you IOIs and flirt with you, etc.
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