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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

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Interesting video but the guy in it doesn't understand nuance.
Sure, sex fantasies about being taken forcefully by a dominant man litter the female psyche. And this is nothing new, by the way.
But these scenarios remain mostly a fantasy.
There is a big difference when these kind of behaviors play out in real life. The police are usually called.

Also... This pseudo alpha male seems to think that it's some kind of revelation that 25% of females searched for "violent porn."
This is just a small percentage on the whole and it still only equates to one thing...fantasy indulgence.

No, the way for civilised men to attract females is not to revert to some kind of toxic masculine rapist of yesteryear.
The way forward for men is to support women.

Listen to them, hug them, but most of all support them, even financially if one of our beautiful sisters happens to be jobless.
Only then can can the spark of sexual chemistry appear.
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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

Post by JasonStatham » 3 weeks ago

blackg wrote:
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Interesting video but the guy in it doesn't understand nuance.
Sure, sex fantasies about being taken forcefully by a dominant man litter the female psyche. And this is nothing new, by the way.
But these scenarios remain mostly a fantasy.
There is a big difference when these kind of behaviors play out in real life. The police are usually called.

Also... This pseudo alpha male seems to think that it's some kind of revelation that 25% of females searched for "violent porn."
This is just a small percentage on the whole and it still only equates to one thing...fantasy indulgence.

No, the way for civilised men to attract females is not to revert to some kind of toxic masculine rapist of yesteryear.
The way forward for men is to support women.

Listen to them, hug them, but most of all support them, even financially if one of our beautiful sisters happens to be jobless.
Only then can can the spark of sexual chemistry appear.
I posted it more for Arjen as a fun Video because the guy is saying: "Stop dating 5s and 6s as a good looking man. And that's something we talk about a lot and he gets very angry at those people xD

As for your statements: Of course, I just have my sample size which isn't that huge (that's what she said) but I found out that most women actually DO love to get dominated. I had mostly girlfriends in the Rock/Alternative scene and they all sooner or later want to get: "chocked, hit on the face, spanked..."
I first thought like you, its just a small percentage and the fact that I dated more or less the same "kind" of women, I was putting them into the "Kinky BDSM" type of women and that's just what those girls want. But when I started with Tinder and Dated all kinds of women, I found out if they really trust you and feel comfortable with you, they all open up about stuff they want to try. A cute girl tells me if we can play the "rape game". She wanted me to press her on a wall and she "fights" me and screams etc. I did it for her and it was very fucked up for me the first couple of times lol. But she got so turned on it was like unbelievable. After she was very addicted to me and wrote me everyday how much she loved it and how she loves it that she can fully trust me. Imagine you have a wife and 1-2 times a week 10min session of missionary sex but in the past, she got chocked and smashed against a wall lol. I think that's a reality of many women that they cant live out their fantasies. Even my current girlfriend after a couple of months is telling me more and more stuff she wants to try it.

In my experience, if a woman is comfortable with you and you have at least a bit of a dominant side, most women want to try at least those "dominant games" out.

For the porn searching, I don't really know from where he got those statistics and how you "know" if a female or male is typing those stuff at Pornhub.

Edit: I just read your last sentence. That's why blackg no one actually can reply to you. Sometimes you are trolling and sometimes you are not. I actually prefer even Rudiger cause at least with him, you know where he stands and doesn't put this pseudo Act.

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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

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I posted it more for Arjen as a fun Video because the guy is saying: "Stop dating 5s and 6s as a good looking man. And that's something we talk about a lot and he gets very angry at those people xD

As for your statements: Of course, I just have my sample size which isn't that huge (that's what she said) but I found out that most women actually DO love to get dominated. I had mostly girlfriends in the Rock/Alternative scene and they all sooner or later want to get: "chocked, hit on the face, spanked..."
I first thought like you, its just a small percentage and the fact that I dated more or less the same "kind" of women, I was putting them into the "Kinky BDSM" type of women and that's just what those girls want. But when I started with Tinder and Dated all kinds of women, I found out if they really trust you and feel comfortable with you, they all open up about stuff they want to try. A cute girl tells me if we can play the "rape game". She wanted me to press her on a wall and she "fights" me and screams etc. I did it for her and it was very fucked up for me the first couple of times lol. But she got so turned on it was like unbelievable. After she was very addicted to me and wrote me everyday how much she loved it and how she loves it that she can fully trust me. Imagine you have a wife and 1-2 times a week 10min session of missionary sex but in the past, she got chocked and smashed against a wall lol. I think that's a reality of many women that they cant live out their fantasies. Even my current girlfriend after a couple of months is telling me more and more stuff she wants to try it.

In my experience, if a woman is comfortable with you and you have at least a bit of a dominant side, most women want to try at least those "dominant games" out.

For the porn searching, I don't really know from where he got those statistics and how you "know" if a female or male is typing those stuff at Pornhub.

Edit: I just read your last sentence. That's why blackg no one actually can reply to you. Sometimes you are trolling and sometimes you are not. I actually prefer even Rudiger cause at least with him, you know where he stands and doesn't put this pseudo Act.
Hahaha. My friends has an 8ish male friend - pretty boring, conceited guy. My friend has been so drawn into all this topics by me that he's started spamming that guy with looks-dynamics-stuff that the other guy lost his patience and told him to stop this crap with dating "up" or "down and so on. Funny thing is though: he's been with his now fiancée for 9 years, he cheats on her left and right with 5s and 6s, but here it comes: he had a severe crush on ONE of the women he got to fuck, he even flew to a city in the hope of seeing her again, but it never happened. By the way, she's an 8...what a coincidence, huh?

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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

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he's been with his now fiancée for 9 years, he cheats on her left and right with 5s and 6s, but here it comes: he had a severe crush on ONE of the women he got to fuck, he even flew to a city in the hope of seeing her again, but it never happened. By the way, she's an 8...what a coincidence, huh?
That's an archetypal Chad story, my cousin used to be an über-Chad (though he was tall, so he couldn't move very fast) and yeah, he was dating multiple girls, some of them stunning, some of them less and he was having quite a good time doing it, some of them would threaten suicide so he would stay with them and he would laugh it off. One day, he falls in love with one of them and gets into a deep depression because of it. He couldn't make sense of what had happened.

I really felt sorry for him during that period, even though I was in a much darker place than him with my own hair loss, depression and anxiety problems. The poor guy got lost in his ocean of options, but I have to say that in the end, he found the light and is now married (to a 7/10 girl), faithful (as far as I can tell) and with two lovely kids.

Anyway, Arjen, just to add to your frustration, an ocean of options is not necessarily paradise, you want at least some constraints in your life. "Yeah but if I only had that option, I'd make the best of it and just get a nice girlfriend!" Yeah yeah yeah, sure, I was almost burning like a vampire in the sun when I realized I'd have to give up my "fucking around" lifestyle to become exclusive with my fiancée.

Usually, the problem with people who have that redpilltalk/lookism/incel mentality is that their goal is to live some hedonistic lifestyle where they're fucking models, having pool parties and getting 1k likes on Instagram all the time. To them, that's heaven and if you question that, you're a coping blue-pilled cuck. Yeah that's heaven alright, for a couple of months, maybe? Then what?

It doesn't seem like you have that problem though, you want a serious girlfriend that you find pretty enough, right? I'm not saying it's goint to be easy but it's surely more realistic than the Instagram male model lifestyle.
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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

Post by Arjen » 3 weeks ago

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That's an archetypal Chad story, my cousin used to be an über-Chad (though he was tall, so he couldn't move very fast) and yeah, he was dating multiple girls, some of them stunning, some of them less and he was having quite a good time doing it, some of them would threaten suicide so he would stay with them and he would laugh it off. One day, he falls in love with one of them and gets into a deep depression because of it. He couldn't make sense of what had happened.

I really felt sorry for him during that period, even though I was in a much darker place than him with my own hair loss, depression and anxiety problems. The poor guy got lost in his ocean of options, but I have to say that in the end, he found the light and is now married (to a 7/10 girl), faithful (as far as I can tell) and with two lovely kids.

Anyway, Arjen, just to add to your frustration, an ocean of options is not necessarily paradise, you want at least some constraints in your life. "Yeah but if I only had that option, I'd make the best of it and just get a nice girlfriend!" Yeah yeah yeah, sure, I was almost burning like a vampire in the sun when I realized I'd have to give up my "fucking around" lifestyle to become exclusive with my fiancée.

Usually, the problem with people who have that redpilltalk/lookism/incel mentality is that their goal is to live some hedonistic lifestyle where they're fucking models, having pool parties and getting 1k likes on Instagram all the time. To them, that's heaven and if you question that, you're a coping blue-pilled cuck. Yeah that's heaven alright, for a couple of months, maybe? Then what?

It doesn't seem like you have that problem though, you want a serious girlfriend that you find pretty enough, right? I'm not saying it's goint to be easy but it's surely more realistic than the Instagram male model lifestyle.
Yes, you are right. I mean, I would love to have as many options as possible. That’s partly because my shattered ego (in terms of my looks) would be boosted, but mainly it would enhance my chances to find a pretty girlfriend that I like for other aspects, too. Because, you know, even if a woman I find visually pleasing were to find me attractive enough, there is still a big chance other factors won’t make it work, so (viable) options would help a lot.

I know it sounds like a whole lot of self-pity, but I’m 37 and my dating life, literally life!, says: I’ve never been able to be with a girl I was genuinely attracted to (edit: without paying for her, that is :p). I had suppressed this realization for over 35 years and for a year or so it’s been hitting me hard. I feel like a failure, because I don’t think I was drawn THAT bad a hand to make this “achievement” possible. And while people are surprised about my serious self-doubts in the few cases I express them and also my failure, I can tell by now it affects my mindset and that may show – maybe not with males and women I don’t pursue, but most likely with women I am interested in. Vicious-circle-kind-of-thing.

I think I’ve written this before: if I were a Chad, I would just appreciate to finally be able to afford to be selective. And I really quite often feel like a woman who seem to know much better what or whom they want. So, the almost paradox thing is: I can totally understand the girl from last Saturday – it just has to feel completely right, otherwise it’s not worth it.

I think it’s different with my friend. It’s almost like secretly he’s glad all those women aren’t that great, so he has a valid reason not to commit himself to one. I’ve told him so and he doesn’t wholeheartedly disagree.

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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

Post by EvilLocks » 1 week ago

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Yesterday I had my first decent match in months on Tinder and on top of that, the writing immediately led to a phone call that lasted fucking 4 hours, because the conversation was flowing. We had planned on meeting today, but since we were both keen on it, we decided to quickly meet yesterday evening before I was heading out with some friends.
I will never forget how I could see the immediate lack of enhusiasm. It took me 1 second (literally) to realize this won't lead anywhere. After 10 minutes (which were always the plan) we said goodbyes and I knew her "see you tomorrow) was a lie - which got confirmed by a text of hers in the middle of the night.
A few things here:
Right after letting me know, she must have blocked me. Wtf, if you think I'm a stalker, why talk to me on the phone for 4 hours in the first place. IT annoys me how heart- and classless women can be. I've had women interested in me without me reciprocating, but I'd never treat them like that, even if it was online stuff where the way out is easy. I more and more start feeling anger toward women showing affection, knowing/assuming they are only affectionate and empathic when they smell a good deal/find the man attractive. I find that disgusting.

I don't blame her for apparently and instantly not finding me attractive, even despite her saying things like "people get more attractive through their behaviour etc." an hour before on the phone. I could have felt the same. And that's one of the main reasons I don't like online dating. If I don't like what I see, I feel sorry and like I've wasted time (although that can be minizimed, sure) or I get a reaction like hers. And while I never developed feelings for that girl, I sure as hell feel bad and down. I'm too sensitive and insecure about my looks to just say "next please", really.

I feel further confirmed in my "threshold-theory". That girl liked my pics (especially the one with the hat, sure, but still, she had seen others), she complimented my on my voice, my smile (acoustically and physically) , my expressions, we had a nice vibe - but it's a ll worth jack shit if you don't pass the looks-threshold. And this latest incident may trigger me to not want to offer my "services" in all other regards to any woman in this world anymore, even if they are nice and I don't have a romantic interest in them. Go have drinks and conversations with that next Portuguese making a third of my salary and who will end up beating you just like your ex. I know this sounds like out of a textbook, but she did date such a guy before. And I am also aware that my sentence above would be welcome evidence that nice guys aren't that nice and stuff like that, but, well, why would anybody expect sympathy from my side.
Women love douche bags, so maybe you should try a different strategy and be more like one. Just kidding, but maybe a touch of douche bag would help. Like, if you notice a girl is even slightly not into you, throw it back in her face. Give her the same treatment that she's about to give you. Most likely it'll make her crazy, ''why doesn't he want ME!?"
Women have this innate attraction to guys who are hard to get / touch of douche bag. Why? Because it makes us feel special if he chooses us, or changes for us. Yet, most women will say ''I just want a nice guy!"
What ends up happening is, she goes through her share of douche bags before she eventually settles down with a nice guy.

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Women love douche bags, so maybe you should try a different strategy and be more like one. Just kidding, but maybe a touch of douche bag would help. Like, if you notice a girl is even slightly not into you, throw it back in her face. Give her the same treatment that she's about to give you. Most likely it'll make her crazy, ''why doesn't he want ME!?"
Women have this innate attraction to guys who are hard to get / touch of douche bag. Why? Because it makes us feel special if he chooses us, or changes for us. Yet, most women will say ''I just want a nice guy!"
What ends up happening is, she goes through her share of douche bags before she eventually settles down with a nice guy.
On a general note, you could be right, it might help me.
But for it to have an effect, it seems to take a natural, enduring environment. I doubt it would work in a constellation like the one at hand. I have witnessed it work even for me: friendly, decent, but disinterested behaviour not standing in the way of a woman‘s interest in me - but I doubt that was the trigger for their interest, they in my opinion simply didn‘t have the same amount and quality of alternatives, as I deemed them less attractive (though Jason would disagree in at least one case, but his taste is silly, so...;)).

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Women love douche bags, so maybe you should try a different strategy and be more like one. Just kidding, but maybe a touch of douche bag would help. Like, if you notice a girl is even slightly not into you, throw it back in her face. Give her the same treatment that she's about to give you. Most likely it'll make her crazy, ''why doesn't he want ME!?"
Women have this innate attraction to guys who are hard to get / touch of douche bag. Why? Because it makes us feel special if he chooses us, or changes for us. Yet, most women will say ''I just want a nice guy!"
What ends up happening is, she goes through her share of douche bags before she eventually settles down with a nice guy.
This is a bit too black and white for me, evil, and while I appreciate the fact that you, yourself, are in fact a female (an attractive one too) what you are are describing here has not been my experience with the opposite sex.

The whole "let me tame a bad boy" shtick is limited to only a percentage a women. Again, just my experience.

What I have mostly encountered is the magic of raw attraction.
Sure, this may make me sound like a bit of a wanker but if a woman has that raw natural attraction to your presence, then it really doesn't matter if you are an arrogant ass or a wilting wallflower.

The whole "is he right for my personality" will usually sort itself out after a physical conssumation.
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This is a bit too black and white for me, evil, and while I appreciate the fact that you, yourself, are in fact a female (an attractive one too) what you are are describing here has not been my experience with the opposite sex.

The whole "let me tame a bad boy" shtick is limited to only a percentage a women. Again, just my experience.

What I have mostly encountered is the magic of raw attraction.
Sure, this may make me sound like a bit of a wanker but if a woman has that raw natural attraction to your presence, then it really doesn't matter if you are an arrogant ass or a wilting wallflower.

The whole "is he right for my personality" will usually sort itself out after a physical conssumation.
Maybe my view on this is (too) simplistic, but I agree: had the girl in question found me super attractive, she would have left her concerns aside, at least for the time being.

I don’t think the choice of approach when making advances to a woman in a non-organic-environment matters much, it’s mainly a question of whether/how physically appealing she finds you, unless you do or say something really terrible or come across as super needy, insecure and desperate.

Once you’ve passed the threshold, it will always remain to be seen if you’re compatible, of course.

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Women love douche bags, so maybe you should try a different strategy and be more like one. Just kidding, but maybe a touch of douche bag would help. Like, if you notice a girl is even slightly not into you, throw it back in her face. Give her the same treatment that she's about to give you. Most likely it'll make her crazy, ''why doesn't he want ME!?"
Women have this innate attraction to guys who are hard to get / touch of douche bag. Why? Because it makes us feel special if he chooses us, or changes for us. Yet, most women will say ''I just want a nice guy!"
What ends up happening is, she goes through her share of douche bags before she eventually settles down with a nice guy.
This sounds like RSD Tyler telling his below average audience how to pick up girls.
The problem with your advice isn't particularly that it isn't "true". Women do like "douchebags" but its more because those guys just simply do not care what people, and more important, women think of them. So why not put off "the pussy from the pedestal" and you will get more or less the same outcome.

But the biggest problem to tell people: "just be a douchebag bruh", is that women will smell this fake personality mile away. I tried this old school PUA shit back in the days and it didn't really work. Why? Because women could smell my desperation behind those fake lines. Just after I got more comfortable with myself and had more and more experience with women, I slowly now transferred to the guy that people told me women want. And now it doesn't feel incongruent when I tell women to fuck off, because she for sure knows, that guy tells the truth. You can't fake body language.

The best advice, especially in our modern age is: don't think too much about one particular woman. Try to have an abundance mentality (even if you don't have one) and work to actually have an abundance of women.

If your only date in months is Natalie from the Pet store, of course, you will put her on a pedestal. Now some guy telling you: "Bruh if you want to have Natalie, treat her like a douchebag!". How can a guy do that if he knows, the next date with a woman will be in months or even years?

I have this one guy on Facebook I met on "pickup" meetups (so much cringe I know) and he follows this fake personality advise that doesn't fit him since years. And you know what? He is single for 6 years and so are the others that try to fake something.

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This sounds like RSD Tyler telling his below average audience how to pick up girls.
The problem with your advice isn't particularly that it isn't "true". Women do like "douchebags" but its more because those guys just simply do not care what people, and more important, women think of them. So why not put off "the pussy from the pedestal" and you will get more or less the same outcome.

But the biggest problem to tell people: "just be a douchebag bruh", is that women will smell this fake personality mile away. I tried this old school PUA shit back in the days and it didn't really work. Why? Because women could smell my desperation behind those fake lines. Just after I got more comfortable with myself and had more and more experience with women, I slowly now transferred to the guy that people told me women want. And now it doesn't feel incongruent when I tell women to fuck off, because she for sure knows, that guy tells the truth. You can't fake body language.

The best advice, especially in our modern age is: don't think too much about one particular woman. Try to have an abundant mentality (even if you don't have one) and work to actually be abundant of women.

If your only date in months is Natalie from the Pet store, of course, you will put her on a pedestal. Now some guy telling you: "Bruh if you want to have Natalie, treat her like a douchebag!". How can a guy do that if he knows, the next date with a woman will be in months or even years?

I have this one guy on Facebook I met on "pickup" meetups (so much cringe I know) and he follows this fake personality advise that doesn't fit him since years. And you know what? He is single for 6 years and so are the others that try to fake something.
What enabled you to gain that experience as opposed to the failing guys you mention? (Only) your (better) looks?

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What enabled you to gain that experience as opposed to the failing guys you mention? (Only) your (better) looks?
This question I can't really give you a reply because it was too complex for me to write down, and I already think you have everything that a man needs to get a woman, so there is no need to reply to it anyway.
The only thing that stands between you and a relationship is your standards. And I'm not judging it. I like a man that want "more" than others and can stand behind that. Women you showed me that wanted you, I can tell you that 90 per cent of men would stop everything they do, to go on a date with them. Even the Chads wouldn't say no.
The country you live in, the disgusting low standards men have, and our modern age is what puts many stones on your way to a good woman.

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This question I can't really give you a reply because it was too complex for me to write down, and I already think you have everything that a man needs to get a woman, so there is no need to reply to it anyway.
The only thing that stands between you and a relationship is your standards. And I'm not judging it. I like a man that want "more" than others and can stand behind that. Women you showed me that wanted you, I can tell you that 90 per cent of men would stop everything they do, to go on a date with them. Even the Chads wouldn't say no.
The country you live in, the disgusting low standards men have, and our modern age is what puts many stones on your way to a good woman.
I guess, well, no, I fear you are right. I think it’s just asking too much as a looks-wise average guy (like any guy who is a 5-7) to be the one of the very few men who pick a woman rather than the other way around. It leaves me – at least as long I remain as rejection-averse as I am now - with a heavy reliance on getting lucky that a woman who meets my taste finds me attractive and picks me. Quite frustrating, but the reality. A reality that I’ve always had at least at the back of my head.

What has been added to my mind recently is a missionary zeal that most likely stems from bitterness. I’ll provide an example: yesterday we were out playing indoor football, followed by the usual pub-visit afterwards. My closest friend who has been sleeping around for years now got uneasy pretty soon after we’d arrived. It was clear that his latest to-be-thrown-away Tinder-acquaintance was spontaneously trying to see him, he didn’t even have to tell me. But here it comes: after like 45 minutes, he left to see her.

It was her who initiated and really wanted that, despite knowing that his evening is booked. He likes her company and fucking her, but he knows he’ll drop her at some point - he simply doesn't find her good looking enough. He likes having those Tuesday evening playing football and having beers afterwards. Yet he left at least one hour earlier than planned, despite HER being the one who is into him and disrupting his plans. It’s just so unlikely (if not impossible) a woman would do it, if it were the other way around. And I noticed how I had to make sure I don’t judge him for not being like me who would NEVER do that not even primairly based on principle, but lack of desire under such circumstances. And that concerns me, because it’s his life and his choice, why does it annoy me, it shouldn’t. I also admit that I envy her: of course it will be hard waking up when he drops her, but still, she has been getting to live a nice illusion and sex with a person she finds attractive for several weeks now, without the guy she likes a lot being into her or finding her all that attractive. As a man, you won’t even get that when she is not or only half-heartedly into you. Seriously, if women I like at least were playing along like that, I’d be getting a lot more experience at least, because I’d be up for it and get the thrill that I just don’t see in fucking meh-women for the sake of fucking.

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Arjen wrote:
1 week ago
And that concerns me, because it’s his life and his choice, why does it annoy me, it shouldn’t. I also admit that I envy her: of course it will be hard waking up when he drops her, but still, she has been getting to live a nice illusion and sex with a person she finds attractive for several weeks now, without the guy she likes a lot being into her or finding her all that attractive. As a man, you won’t even get that when she is not or only half-heartedly into you. Seriously, if women I like at least were playing along like that, I’d be getting a lot more experience at least, because I’d be up for it and get the thrill that I just don’t see in fucking meh-women for the sake of fucking.
I wouldn't get envy to live in a fake world. I like to know the truth. If you tasted the truth, at first it gives you a bitter taste, but more and more you appreciate it, and you get addicted to it in every aspect of your life and the world around you.

For example, I never understood the appeal of having a lot of money for the sole reason to "getting the girls". What's the point?
To me a women that just loves to sit in a park with me and eat ice cream and is genuinely happy just to be with me and spend time with me, is worth a million times more than some groupies that want my dick just because I'm famous, or have tons of money or whatever status shit.

The women above will pay the price sooner or later anyway. Her biological clock is ticking. Wasting time chasing men that are not interested in her as a person, and just use her as human fleshlight, will take away the chance to pair bond with a man that actually cares about her and establish a life together with children and true happiness.

You still feel envy for her when she is 35 and childless and posting the usual: "be happy with yourself" quotes on Facebook while sipping on cheap Wine on a Friday night?

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Re: When the girl seems to change her mind on a whim

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JasonStatham wrote:
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I wouldn't get envy to live in a fake world. I like to know the truth. If you tasted the truth, at first it gives you a bitter taste, but more and more you appreciate it, and you get addicted to it in every aspect of your life and the world around you.

For example, I never understood the appeal of having a lot of money for the sole reason to "getting the girls". What's the point?
To me a women that just loves to sit in a park with me and eat ice cream and is genuinely happy just to be with me and spend time with me, is a million times more worth than some groupies that want my dick just because I'm famous, or have tons of money or whatever status shit.

The women above will pay the price sooner or later anyway. Her biological clock is ticking. Wasting time chasing men that are not interested in her as a person, and just use her as human fleshlight, will take away the chance to pair bond with a man that actually cares about her and establish a life together with children and true happiness.

You still feel envy for her when she is 35 and childless and posting the usual: "be happy with your selfes" quotes on Facebook while sipping on cheap Wine on a Friday night?
I agree, but I would still prefer enjoying spells with appealing women ending up with that cheap wine instead of ending up with the wine alone (or at least without a woman) at the age you mentioned like myself maybe. :P

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