I think it hurt her because she knew there is some truth to it, i.e. deep down she had to agree. It's the realistic accuracy of the message that triggered her, I am assuming.Admin wrote: ↑1 year agoOh you can tell the truth, just not when it hurts someone.
So you'll be fine as long as you tell everyone things that they already agree with.
Good luck ever having an interesting and meaningful conversation that way.
"I agree with you" "oh I agree with you too!" "What's that? You have an opinion which clashes with my rigid belief system? That's hate speech! You shouldn't be allowed to speak!"
Banned! The totalitarians are having a field day in those positions of power. Hopefully it leads to platforms which were not designed for the fragile. Just look at what happened with Hairlosstalk's own Stalin character and the subsequent creation of this forum.
Edit: I have something else to say about this: you could easily argue that the people in charge at Bumble want to create a safe space for the women using that app because too many interactions like that could deter a woman from using the app.
And I think that we have the same problem as with women only gyms here. It's immoral for them to do so even even if it's in the interest of their business. We want people, and yes even women to be strong in our society. Up to now I haven't been able to find a better argument against those practices, especially since the other side will always advocate "muh free market!", and why not? Just think about what you're doing and what you're truly advocating for, how it will play out in the long term and what it says about your view of women.
The more those companies want to protect certain people, the weaker those people will get. It's one of the most conflicting messages of feminism, they want women to be strong and independent, but also to be seen as weak and in need of protection. I don't think you can have both of those, and I think we all know what would be the best choice for women, men and society at large in the long run.
Had it been a more general, less specific and “self-critical” (Hey, I know I’m only a 6 too!) statement, it would have hurt less, even if harsher, insulting words had been used.
And, quite seriously, how often do women whine about men not disclosing their intentions. “If at least they had told me they just want sex” This guy just added to reason for his motivation, and it would have been really interesting to read what they found offensive enough to ban a male member who had even paid for their premium version.