Afro_Vacancy wrote: ↑
1 year ago
I have seen your photos in your hair transplant thread. Your looks may not be elite, but they are comfortably and unambiguously above-average relative to your peer group off white men in their early-to-mid twenties.
As for "would you like to get coffee sometime", it's not necessarily cucked. That's how my (good-looking, not as good-looking as you) cousin met his wife. He did not engage in mind games, he did not try to "get to know the women first", or whatever. He matched, and if he wanted to meet up, he said "Would you like to meet up for a drink?" He had ~40 dates in 3 months and then finally met a woman that he wanted to stay with.
How about dinner/coffee/drinks isn't about begging as you're implying it to be, it's about skipping bullshit and moving to the batter's box.
Yeah, I was basically a cuck all the time then. I liked to keep it simple, while still making it match my personality.
I don't believe you have to be original, witty and funny all the time. Watch any great comedy and you'll realize that most of them aren't trying to be funny and witty 100% of the time, they're embedded in a story with other elements that are necessary, like tragedy and other more trivial moments.
I don't know if that makes sense, let's say that when I was dating, I always made sure it felt as natural as possible without being boring, even though again, like with anything, you will need to accept that there will be more boring and trivial moments, and I believe that's OK and even necessary.
Only yesterday I was joking with my girlfriend about how I asked her out on Tinder, very fast, to the point, but still with a touch of humor, which in the end will hopefully turn out to be the truth. "What are you looking for here?" "The future mother of my children" <= I guess that makes me the king of the cucks. That's what I wanted to say, she laughed, but it was obvious I had her at "hey how are you?".
One shouldn't overthink those parts even though everything matters to an extent. You have to decide who you want to be, if you decide that 5-6 messages back and forth is enough before asking the girl to meet and you see it works for some girls, you're good, you don't need to justify yourself or adapt your methods and change your personality to please every girl who won't accept it, because acting like that would make you a cuck in my opinion.