Arjen wrote: ↑6 months agoSet my age to 27 (10 years younger than I actually am), only 1 pic, with hat.
The likes are now of a quality where I‘d without the cheating think: ok, not my dream girls, but, well, fair, finally some who are ~6, why not meet a few of them if they seem somewhat reasonable otherwise. While this to me feels like the (still quite low) level I feel I „deserve“, it surely doesn‘t mean I cn reach it. Not at 37, not with a bald head.
Social circle/work gets my access to attractive women, but it‘s really ridiculous by now to witness how your looks are your (only) cap. While the 6.5 who bought me a beer makes sure I may of course return the favor, but at the next group gathering (which was my envisioned setting anyway...), the 3-4 openly suggests that we don‘t need to wait for such an occasion. This is the latest of so many similar examples that I am resigning. The women I like are not interested, the dating market has decided so, and it really doesn‘t matter whether I find this fair.
The options remaining are:
- Importing a cute woman, from Mexico or so. Providing wouldn‘t necessarily be my main concern, but I like interesting conversations (a reason why good-looking women from work like me, I suppose) and I like things neat and tidy. I‘m weary of mentality conflicts and language barriers.
- Settling for a smart and affluent Swiss woman and dating down in looks. Having the smart & affluent part fulfilled would still leave me in a better place than most average men here. Apart from nationality, I had this set-up before and it made me unhappy.
- Coming to terms with the prospect of leading the life of now but without hoping for and seeking women.
I‘m leaning towards option 3, with not nearly as much bitterness as one might expect.
I either blanked out that you were 37 or didn’t know.
I assumed you were in late 20s from the content of your posts and your expectations of wanting someone ‘cute’. I tend to think of cute women as a 20something look for most.(not all) women.
This gives me on opinion as to why you have this issue with the dating.
I’m curious as a 37 year old, what age have you been considering on your dating app? Can it be the cute girls you’ve been attracted too are considering themselves too young?
Some women don’t care about age difference, but some do. Why/why not I don’t know.