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Many people rate Arjen a 7. We can be very harsh and say, he is a 6.5.
So why after years of Tinder, he never gets the looks matches? I'm always suspicious when people say they get their looks matches on Tinder because not once in real life I have seen a proof of that. Of course, Arjen is very harsh in rating and I would say, you can usually add +0,5 SMV to every girl he rates. But people saying they get even some 8s when they aren't themselves an 8, is a fucking lie and I don't get it why you have to lie on a topic like this. Nothing to be ashamed to get no matches from the super hotties.
Mostly guys date below their SMV and saying things like: "Nah she is not that bad...at least she is thin" or "Well a big nose isn't a big of a deal anyway."
To be fair, and I’m really being honest and truly not fishing here: anyone rating me a 5 would be within what I’d still consider perfectly reasonable. Message being: yes, I’m critical, but towards everyone.
That being said: all Tinder matches I know are mismatches, with the guy being the better looking part. All of them. I agree with you that often guys are more lenient, have a lower physical-attractiveness-threshold than women (or me), so if she’s cool, that’s fine, she’s attractive enough after all.
The threshold in my (admittedly rather harsh) scale for a woman is a 6 (this is not conscious, this is me trying to rationalize and observe my behavior and actions), give or take, with 7s tantamount to really pretty girls that I consider clearly above myself looks-wise. On Tinder, I’ve barely matched with a 6 (my looksmatch in my view), one 7 and never higher – and we’re talking years here. If I matched with 6s, I’d be on dates regularly, especially if they seem eager and smartish. In my experience, a woman who is 1-2 points lower than you on the looks-scale has your SMV, and that’s even including them being reasonable about not being able to tie down Chads. Hence, if I were an 8, I could date women I find attractive and who’d even be eager. Being a 6 or 6.5 per se seems fine, but it’s misleading, especially in online dating.
I also remember Johnson’s posts on HairLossTalk. If we agree that looks are the starting point, I was mildly shocked at what he called his looksmatches, given he’s easily a 6.