men have to be confident, intiate, and take the lead . . . women on the other hand can do whatever the fuck they want lmao.
i swear all i want is for women to intiate as much as men do, and not have such high standards. imagine if the dating market was actually fair in the sense of 50% intiation by both sexes, and both have same standards. would there even be any incels left?
i'm completely unable to approach women again, even online, even while drunk AND online, i've come to the conclusion i'll never be able to . i did actually do so a few times in real life when i was 18 and concealer dependent, but after 2 or 3 conversations i started panicking because i got scared she would notice the concealer and that eventually i would have to escalate. it was just friendly conversation.
as for online i've talked to a few girls, but same issues, i had extreme anxiety about escalation, and also i was 24/7 worried about their responses to the point where i couldn't even enjoy life. literally every second was spent either worrying about making a good response to their message OR worried about their response to my message. last time i tried talking online was like 2017 and i've given up since then.
even just being friends with girls makes me overwhelmingly nervous, because thats what would be the reasonable way forward for a normie, but you just can't be friends with the opposite sex. theres always that idea in the back of their heads that they could possibly be in a sexual and romantic relationship. its like putting two magnets near each other and keeping them from attracting.